let’s normalize loss. last week was the year anniversary of my dad passing. shortly after he passed i made this video from home video from my childhood and iphone photos and video from the day i found him on the floor mid seizure to the discovery of the stage four tumor to days before his passing.
making this video was part of my healing process. its something i watch often to remember how short life is and that it all might be over soon.
i’m sharing this today is in memory of him and is also me coming forward to make a statement about loss and the internet. simply stated, i think it’s worth it to normalize loss, especially on the internet, and to share it equally on here as we share the good. after all, we come online to share about our lives and feel understood and i would feel like i was lying by omission if all i did online was share my work. of course, the internet fails us at this every day favoring the cute photo of a puppy over someone talking about their depression but i hope you can give me the opportunity to share a bit of my hard and messy life on here as an invitation and a hope that someday we can have a conversation in real life about our hard in our lives. hug it out because of our hard. celebrate our happy even more because we are understood in our hard.
this is a look at my family’s journey, my dad’s fight, and my hard. i’m looking forward to seeing more hard times and our hearts shared on places like this. i think it’s what we so desperately need. after all, we’re all wounded people just looking for a hug and a “me too.”